Reinvent Yourself

Reinvent Yourself to Create an Ideal Life After Divorce

If there’s one silver lining in a divorce, it’s the opportunity to reinvent yourself and create a better future for yourself. Many of

us live our lives on auto-pilot, without questioning whether it’s really the life we want to live. A traumatic event like divorce shocks us to the core and forces us to question our long-held assumptions about ourselves, our loved ones, and about life.

What does it mean to “reinvent yourself”? “Reinvent” means “to remake or make over, as in a different form”. It also means intentionally doing something different. Create a new future for yourself … a life that allows you to express who you really are. A life that is aligned with your core values and your passions.

Think about your life and view it as if it was a movie. Why did you make the choices you’ve made so far? What led you to marry the person you married? To have the friends you spend time with? To pursue your current career path? What were the external factors that drove some of those choices? We often make major life decisions because of influences from others. Society gives us messages about what types of people we “should” be with. How soon we “should” get married and settle down. How many children we “should” have. What job title we “should” have. How kind of home we “should” own, and in what neighborhood.

What kind of life do YOU want?

Here are 3 mind-expanding questions to ask yourself. Imagine if you had no constraints whatsoever … financially, geographically, mentally, or physically.

(1) Where would you live?

(2) How would you spend your time?

(3) What kind of people would you want to be with?

In my case, I decided I wanted to (1) move to the West Coast and live in San Francisco. (2) I wanted to have a very active social life while doing work that is very fulfilling to my heart and soul (i.e. coaching others to reach their full potential in life). (3) I wanted to hang around with like-minded friends who are authentic, conscious, positive, and committed to personal growth. From the time I established this vision for my life, it took me about one year to make it happen, including my cross-country move to establish myself in San Francisco. And my “happiness factor” has skyrocketed! I feel like I’m living my dream every day!

How would your life be, if you could do what YOU want? If you could live where you always dreamed of living? If you could follow your passions? If you could hang out with only people whom you choose to be with?

So what’s stopping you from having that life?

Divorce is a life-altering event. Consider the possibility of using it as a springboard to a more joyful future. Consider that most of the obstacles getting in the way of your happiness are self-imposed limitations.

If that sounds overwhelming, then consider that by working with a Change Agent/Mentor/Personal Coach, you can achieve your big goals and the life you want much more quickly than if you pursued them alone. If you were successful in the business world, you can learn how to develop a successful and fulfilling personal life too!


2 Responses to Reinvent Yourself

  1. Susan May 30, 2011 at 7:22 am #

    I am here now and Have been for two years after the end of a 30 year marriage. I took a chance. The giant leap into me. I did a adventurous thing believing, after careful study, it would be an amazing daily experience and an economical way to live my new life. It sank. Now I am frozen. BUT!
    I want to write a book about my experience, happy. tragic and exhilerating. Suggestions anyone?

    • Keiko June 1, 2011 at 6:04 pm #

      Susan – It takes a lot of commitment and courage to make a big leap, so I acknowledge you for that. Sometimes it works out as planned, and sometimes it doesn’t. But there’s always a lesson in the outcome. Writing a book about your experience can be very inspiring to others, so I encourage you to do that. If that feels like too big of a project, you can still inspire others by writing an article, speaking, or giving interviews. Best wishes to your future success! – Keiko

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