Take the High Road During Divorce
There’s been much talk about taking the high road during divorce, especially among people who follow celebrities whose marriages lie in tatters. Actress Sand
ra Bullock is a recent example of taking the high road in her well-publicized split with her soon-to-be ex-husband Jesse James. In her acceptance speech for an MTV Movie Award last night, she said “Whoever established the high road and how high it should be should be fired.”
“Taking the high road” is never easy, especially when someone you trusted with your life cheats on you. We’re human, so we all feel tempted to prove that we’re right and someone else is wrong when a situation goes awry. I certainly felt that way when my own marriage fell apart.
So why is taking the high road a good thing to do? Because even though you want the world to know that you’ve been wronged, displaying your anger, bitterness, and resentment does NOT serve you. All it does is make you feel bad.
Taking an adversarial position only prolongs the agony for YOU. If you’ve truly tried to rebuild your marriage and have concluded that your conflict is irreconcilable, then the best course of action is to let it go as quickly as possible and move on with your life. You have so many better choices you can make on how you should spend your precious time and energy during this major transition.
Stop looking in the rear view mirror. Better to look forward towards your brighter future in your life after divorce.