How to Keep Yourself Motivated
through your Transition
Some people are able to prioritize their goals and stay focused on what’s important, getting lots of things done on their To-Do list and being very productive. Others have good intentions but get easily distracted, not accomplishing much throughout the day. What separates people that survive from those that thrive? The answer is simple: the ability to keep yourself motivated. This is especially critical when you’re rebuilding your life after a major life transition such as divorce.
As a coach, I know that people can change. I see it all the time with my clients. Once you realize that you are totally responsible for creating the motivation necessary to create what you want for yourself in your life, the more successful you will be.
Motivation is what will keep you going after doubts, interruptions or distractions get in the way. Motivation is what will keep you going when part of you feels like stopping. Get good at keeping yourself motivated and you will be able to get through any transition and create the life you want.
Use the following 6 strategies to ensure that your motivation will rise and be with you every day, all day:
1) Get Clear on Your Goals
Goals are your navigational system. They keep you going in the right direction. They tell you where you want to stop for a rest, and what your final destination is. What do you want your life after divorce to be like? Do you want a job that pays well and allows you to do work that you enjoy? Would you rather have the freedom of having your own business? Figure out your goals for each area of your life, and also identify what the benefit is of each goal. Review your goals every day, update them as needed and be sure to focus on the benefits the goals bring you as you do your daily goal review.
2) Ongoing Planning
The productivity experts say that one hour of planning saves four hours of productivity. What actions do you need to take to reach your goals? Schedule them into your calendar. By taking time every day to plan what you are going to do today to move closer to your primary goals, you will be accelerating your process of accomplishment.
3) Experience Accomplishment
Nothing will motivate you more than being successful. This is the often-overlooked factor in staying motivated. The more successful you are, the more you are motivated. Break down your goals into bite-sized chunks so that they are realistic and you can accomplish them without getting overwhelmed. It feels good to be able to complete and check items off your To-Do List. Be sure to stop and notice your accomplishments, or else you will not enjoy the natural motivation boost to which you are entitled.
4) Keep Up Your Personal Daily Habits
There are those things you know to do, that you may not always do, that make a big difference in how motivated and productive you are. Pick at least five daily habits that you know make a difference for you in the short and long term. My top recommendations for daily personal habits are taking a multivitamin, at least 30 minutes of cardio or walking, drinking plenty of water, getting a good night’s sleep, and as we have already stated, reviewing your goals and making time for planning and thinking.
5) Lose the Negative People
If you have people in your life that bring you down, it is time for you to limit or eliminate your interaction with them. If you have people in your life who have a negative attitude, complain constantly, or are pessimistic about your ability to create happiness for yourself, bring this to their attention in a loving way and let them know that this does not work for you. Maybe they are not even aware of it. If your request is not honored, then give serious consideration to whether or not this relationship is serving you. You will be so much more motivated if you hang around with positive, inspiring people.
6) Believe in Your Ability
One of the most important ingredients in staying motivated is to believe in yourself, and to believe in your ability to accomplish your desired outcomes. Make sure you are talking to yourself positively every day, that you are not putting yourself down, and that you are not making statements that don’t support you. Be your own best success coach.
Use these 6 tips to get motivated. Don’t wait! Start today. The more motivated you are, the easier it will be to create what you want everywhere in your life so that your life after divorce will be better than ever!